Chaï Desjardins-McDonald

I have always been fascinated by humans, and even more so by human relationships, by the elements that connect us and hold us together. As a sexologist, I support couples who are experiencing a disconnect and wish to find their way back to each other. Whether it’s a fading desire, a shifting dynamic, or clashing cultural differences, I help partners rediscover a space of intimacy, pleasure, and acceptance where each person can thrive.

My personal history shapes both my professional interests and my way of being. Growing up in an intercultural family taught me early on how to navigate between worlds, reconcile differing values, and recognize the visible and invisible tensions of systemic racism. My queer identity journey led me through deep reflections on authenticity, self-acceptance, and the many ways love can be expressed. These experiences have allowed me to cultivate a sensitive ear, an open perspective on diverse life paths, and a genuine ability to welcome you into your reality without judgment.

I work with couples, often together for many years, who are looking to reconnect amid life’s turbulence. This may involve mismatched sexual desire, shifts in sexuality, communication difficulties, mental load affecting daily life, or conflicts rooted in cultural differences. I also work with partners who want to explore or express their queer identities within their relationship. No matter how disconnection shows up, my role is to support you in building a deeper, more conscious and tender bond.

My work is grounded in an intersectional feminist approach enriched by queer theory, acknowledging the many ways social contexts shape our relationships. I pair this with a humanistic stance rooted in empathy, agency, and unconditional respect.

My goal is to help you better understand each other, express yourselves with clarity and care, and bring pleasure back to the heart of your sexuality. As we walk this path together, we open the door to freer, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships.

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  In addition to my academic background in sexology, I completed an internship working with parents of young children, where I offered sexology sessions and group activities to support them in their relationships and sexuality. I also had the joy of being immersed in the world of children, sharing in their play and tender developmental moments. So just know—if you show me pictures of your babies (or your pets), I’ll definitely melt!

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  I’ve always been deeply curious, and in recent years, that curiosity has been fed through travel. Whether I’m taking in a culture completely different from my own in South America or marveling at the landscapes of the Maritimes and Western Canada, traveling teaches me so much about myself.

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  People often describe me as easily amazed. I’m drawn to the beauty of people, human connections, cities, nature, and every animal I encounter. I intend to hold on to this childlike wonder, always in awe of the world’s beauty, and to keep spreading that mindset to those around me.